Initial attraction is *usually* physical and then that attraction can be influenced either way based upon intelligence and personality.
Weird that you should say that about men wanting a partner who is a doormat. I would have said the same thing about women. It's important to find someone that you're compatible with and who shares similar interests, but it would drive me insane if my partner could not stimulate me mentally as well as physically.
I decided a long time ago that I wasn't going to 'settle' for someone simply to avoid being alone. Brains, body, BOTH, I tell you! George Hrab rocks.
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